“If you can’t forgive the person, then let the emotions go.”
Letting It All Go
If “forgivness” is too difficult in certain life situations, than just let the emotions of the expeience go and let the pain go as best you can.
By allowing the emotions to be released from your body, spirit, and mind. You are ready to love yourself more; this is freedom.
Just tell yourself it’s time to let it all go. Let it go with the highest vibration of love surrounding the situation.
Trust in your heart of hearts that these experiences are assisting with your spiritual life and growth.
Ask the divine to come into your heart and help you release the emotions of the experience.
If you have to do this many times, it’s okay; God won’t get bored.
How To Let Go:
Take out a piece of paper or write these exercises in your journal. Sit quietly to get clear on what is upsetting you. As best you can write out all of your feelings. You can not fail with detail. 🙂
What hurts me, about what happened?
What are my emotions about what happened?
Where is this anger and sadness coming from?
Do you have high expectations of the person or situation?
Am I over-personalizing myself, the situation or the other person?
Letting Go, Practice-A
Read this list out loud, and then write it in your journal.
“I release ____________ (insert name), and all anger, hurt and blame.”
“I am focusing on forgiveness, joy, peace, and love.”
“I am living in the present.”
“I am healed and free.”
Take out a piece of paper or write these exercises in your journal:
Letting Go, Practice-B
Get in a comfortable position, close your eyes, and relax all the muscles in your body. Begin to connect with your breath, bringing the breath all the way down to your abdomen.
Invite the divine and the highest vibration of love to surround you. Invite the divine to enter your heart. Invite your higher self in. Imagine a pure white light surrounding you. If you choose, you can invite in the higher wisdom of the person you are in conflict with. Say whatever you need to say to this person to clear your heart.
Ask this person’s higher wisdom any questions you may have. Listen, and trust any intuitive information that you are receiving. Allow all your emotions to come out. If you want to, imagine the other person saying what they need to say back to you. Notice whether you feel lighter. Maybe you’re both apologizing and smiling at each other. Imagine the energy between the two of you as being healed, and notice how you’re feeling. Maybe you hug each other.
Ask this person to give you back any of your power that you gave to them. Visualize your power coming back through the transmission of white light.
Thank this person’s wiser self for participating in this forgiveness exercise. Bless them. Notice whether you feel lighter. Also notice if there’s anything you need to forgive yourself for.
I believe that before we incarnate on earth, we choose our parents and siblings to assist us with our life plan and life lessons. Imagine, for example, that if we are meant to learn self-love in this lifetime, our parents may have gifted us with lessons that challenged us to love ourselves when we didn’t feel loved by them.
“Family is very important.”
If more people can put down their grudges and call their family members daughter, son, mom, dad, brother, or sister —and just say, “I love you,” the world will feel a great sense of relief.
It does not matter who’s right or wrong, who’s different, who is from the old school of doing things, who calls whom more, who does more in the family—just love them anyway.
In situations involving wrongdoings, pray for healing, love, compassion, and abundance for your family members.
“If we really want love, we must learn how to forgive.”
Source- Smile Across Your Heart: The Process of Building Self-Love by Laurie Martin
Adapted by G Ross Clark