The Letting Go Technique – how to stop emotional eating
Food gives us pleasure because it tastes good, and food helps us avoid pain because eating releases chemicals in the brain that have a soothing and calming effect. How could we not want to overeat? We are wired to eat emotionally!
The next question then is, how can we stop it? The answer is simple. We stop avoiding our unwanted emotions. We fully accept them and ‘let go’. Sounds easy doesn’t it? But have you actually ever tried it? If it was that easy to just let go, wouldn’t we all have done it by now?
Letting go has lightness, transformation and disappearance of the issue – whatever it was.
David R. Hawkins
Has written a whole book on how to let go!It’s called Letting Go – the Pathway of Surrender. Hawkins says that being able to surrender means that all feelings can be let go of at will at any time and it can be done continuously. The surrendered state means being free of negative feelings and free of inner conflict and expectation in a given area.
His theory is that we carry a huge range of accumulated negative feelings, attitudes and beliefs. This accumulated pressure makes us miserable and is the basis of our problems. We seek to escape from it in many many ways.
Eating would be one of those ways. That escapism of not being able to accept or endure this inner turmoil is what keeps us stuck. Life is one long struggle to escape our inner fears and expectations with the occassional moment of happiness.
We’re afraid of our inner feelings most of the time. We have a fear of these feelings because we don’t have a conscious way of handling them if we let them come up. Because we’re afraid to face them they continue to accumulate and the pressure mounts and our efforts to look for escape continues.
Hawkins actually describes a ‘mechanism of letting go’. Letting go involves being aware of a feeling, letting it come up, staying with it, and letting it run its course, without wanting it to be different or doing anything about it.
1- Begin by allowing yourself to have the feeling without resisting it, venting it, fearing it, or condemning it.
2- Drop the judgement about having the feeling and surrender all efforts to change anything.
3- Accept the situation exactly as is. When you give up resisting the feeling it will eventually run its course, modify and shift to the next feeling, and it will become lighter. The energy behind the feeling will dissipate.
Note: Often you’ll notice that you have guilt or fear over having certain feelings. In that case it’s best to let go of the reaction of having the feeling in the first place. For example, if you are having a fear of fear, let go of the fear that you have about the feeling in the first place and then get into the feeling itself.
Why Negative Feelings
All negative feelings are merely survival programs. They are associated with a basic fear that the mind believes is necessary to maintain to ensure our survival.
The letting go technique undoes these programs progressively. Feelings come and go and eventually you realise that you are not your feelings but you are merely witnessing them. Feelings are energy in motion. You stop identifying with them.
When you’ve mastered this technique, you’ll no longer need to eat to avoid emotions. Simple? Yes. Easy? No. Just practice, practice, practice.
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