“Offering a loving presence to our emotional suffering promotes healing.”
This self forgiveness talk explores the three key elements that support this process:
1- Self forgiveness
2- Accessing a source of love and safety
3- Bringing a kind attention to the sensations in the body
- Be very gentle with yourself
- It is OK, if we can not do a full self forgiveness.
- If forgiveness is too difficult, set the intention to feel the sadness etc.
- “may I feel the sadness” etc.
Is there really a ‘bad me?
“The level of suffering [we feel] is directly related to how we are relating to [our inner weather systems] . . . When things are unpleasant we add the idea and the full-blown sense that it’s helping to a self, and the self is a “bad” self.
This is a proliferation that is so pervasive that I’ve come to sense it as the primary manifestation of suffering. In some way when the weather systems aren’t pleasant that there’s [a sense that there is a] a “bad” self it’s happening to. What happens is that whether it’s fear or whatever, what it implicates is a self that either deserves [suffering] or is causing [suffering] or is the problem.
“Explore together how this proliferation happens and consider what it means to have a Nonproliferation Treaty with ourselves.”
Source- Tara Brach
Used with permission by G Ross Clark